Recently, I shared the below photo with this caption on social media.. “This photo is an example of me shining with love and blossoming from the effect of Rod’s presence, holding space and capacity to evoke my openness.”
And someone just asked me yesterday, “When I saw that photo, I wanted to know what Rod had done 10 minutes earlier to evoke that response in you. I wanted to know what it was so that I could recreate that when I have a partner.”
Yes, there was something Rod had said 10 minutes earlier, even likely 1 minute earlier but the deepest answer is that Rod brings his loving presence to me everyday in our relationship. I shine because of the consistency of love, the depth of presence, and the capacity to feel me that Rod brings.


Cultivating trust, opening a woman’s heart, growing a love that causes both of you to flourish is an ongoing journey of commitment. 


So what Rod had done 10 minutes earlier? I am not even sure now. But what I do know is that during this photo shoot, he was loving me, encouraging me and evoking me with words of love, humour and teasing. He knows what opens my heart and causes me to shine!



(And to keep it real, occasionally, he misses the mark, and evokes my frown instead!)


To sum it up for you, the reason I am experiencing such deep flow and shine in my life is for 3 very specific reasons:
1. Individual daily practices that we are both committed to as part of our growth and being all that we can be in our lives and relationship.
2. Rod’s intention and commitment to open my heart as fully as possible.
3. Daily and weekly intimate practices that nourish and nurture our relationship.
I am sharing this so that people know there is no quick fix to opening your partner’s heart. There is no simple one step remedy for relationship challenges.


What creates a thriving relationship? 

♦ Two people being committed to an intention bigger than themselves.

♦ Keeping love alive by being equally as present and available to each other in the difficult times as in the times of flow.

♦ Cultivating curiosity, vulnerability, and trust in the connection.